Wanna Be Happy? Have Zero Expectations of Others.

After 7 years of being in my spiritual journey of growth, wisdom, learning and enlightenment, I’ve come to the following belief: The one has to be free from:

1- Judgement (Including criticizing, comparing, blaming, shaming, complaining etc..)

Judgement is simply a lack of acceptance of one another.

2- Assumptions.

Let’s remember that one cannot assume and always be right. Assumptions only carry to us to unknown, unreal lands of pain we fabricate and take to be real.

3-Attachments.

The Buddha once said that “Attachment is the root of all suffering.”. I learned that that’s not practically veracious, as it’s nigh on impossible to live in this world without having attachments. We like certain things and we don’t like others. We may call them preferences, but they’re also judgments and attachments.

And I learned that it’s not our attachments per se that cause us the suffering, but our inability to let go of them cleanly and quickly when the universe has moved on. It is when we let go of them the moment the universe makes it painful to continue clinging onto them. The world will turn as it wishes, and we must have the courageous maturity to turn with it.

4- Expectations.

We often set bars for how people around us ‘should’ behave. It is said that what messes us most in life is the image in our minds of how it’s ‘supposed’ to be. Nothing’s ‘supposed’ to happen. This goes back to the topic of attachments. Expectations are one form of attachments we saddle our tender souls with. We need not set models for how others or the world should be and then embroil ourselves in the self-architected anguish we have brewed, and cause ourselves unnecessary suffering. No expectations, no upset. Remember, people’s thoughts on us are merely reflections of their own soul, their own mindset, their own state of being, their own reality. It has nothing to do with us, and never did.

5- Lastly, Resistance to change.

“There is only one way to happiness. Stop worrying about things you cannot control.”

-Epictetus

Change is painful for most people. Our reptilian brains fear it. Yet, change is the only constant in life. It’s the one thing that will always hold true no matter what happens. We need not entangle ourselves into senseless and endless wars with reality and then wonder why we never find peace.

When we cling onto things that have gone past by, we deprive ourselves from the tranquility of being in acceptance and letting go.

Letting go isn’t indifference, it’s acceptance without clinging. It’s self-care. It’s love loving itself, across the ethereal fabric of space and time. The universe looking down on itself, manifesting itself in human form.

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May we find the courage to let go of the things that no longer serve us,

While blessing our souls with the graceful peace that arises.

May the Peace never leave our side. ☮️

May you be richly blessed!

Namaste 🙏